Sunday, March 6, 2011


I know I haven't been keeping up with this blog like I should. Some very unhappy things have happened in my life lately. The hardest one is that Doug left. I know that the news is going to get out anyway might as well hear it from me. I live in a small town. I know there are a few of you out there that this will totally come as a shock. Send me your number and I'll explain everything. For now this is all anyone needs to know. I'm more scared now than I have ever been in my entire life. I've never been in this place of so much uncertainity. There are  days that all I want to do is just stay in bed and cry. i've never felt so kicked around, sucker punched and damaged. I know I have an amazing support system most of those are 4,000 miles away and I feel that. I know I'm not alone, but at times it feels like it. I thought I had my life pretty much mapped out for me. Stay in the military, raise my family, and sit on my front porch with my husband and turn old. Now life has thrown that good ole curve ball and now I'm not so sure. I know I've made mistakes in my life, I've fallen down really hard, questioned God and wondered if he was still there, and I've been so ready just to give up lately. Fortunately I have two small reminders that my life is worth living that eventhough things look really bleak they are the little lights in my life and I need to cling to that for dear life. I've hated myself and questioned who I am. I am a mother, a child of God, still a wife, a daughter, a daughter-in-law, a sister-in-law, a grand-daughter, great-grand-daughter, an aunt, niece, sister, and a member of the greatest service on earth. I have a family that loves me despite all my faults and would do absolutely anything for me even some pretty extreme things. I love them for that. They have been there for me through the last few weeks of tears and pain. Miles may separate us but we've got phones, facebook, and lots of prayers. They lift me up, make me smile and laugh, and keep me focused on the most important people in my life: Paige Jasdelynn Beckham and Clay Riley Beckham. I know in the days ahead I will have okay days, hard days full of pain, lots and lots of tears, and maybe someday, though I can't even see it now one day I will be just fine again. This is just life and it sucks sometimes, but you can either sit around and feel sorry for yourself (which I've done a lot of) or you can dust yourself off get up and take a swing right back a life roll with the punches and learn to duck next time. My life has done a total 180 I've decided that it is time to change my job. Not getting out of the military just making it better for my kids and me. I've got to get a lot of school done to accomplish my new vision for my life and in the end I'll be an officer in the nursing field. I love caring for other people and want to be able to touch someones life. I'll probably be calling alot of you young people that are in college namely my little brother and hopefully get some help. I've got three years to accomplish this goal and I'm going to need all the help I can get. Then hopefully I'll be on my way back to Oklahoma to finish my schooling at the greatest university on the face of the earth OU. So there it the nitty gritty truth about my life why I've got tons of lemons and lots of lemonade to make. Life just happened!!  

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Daddy is Coming!!!!!!

At last at last after many attempts to get Doug here (thank you mother nature) he will arrive on the 5th. I can't even begin to describe how excited I am. I feel like we haven't seen each other in years. I now have a deeper appreciation for all the single parents out there with multiple children. I don't know how they do it. I'm ready to fall apart, scream, and rip my hair off my head after just a few hours. Paige is pretty easy unless she is in a mood. My mom use to tell me I was having an attitiude Paige's can remain for days!!!!! Clay Riley is trying so hard to tell me what he wants, and if I guess wrong it could be a bad day. The two of them can be laughing, having fun, and keeping themselves entertained then it flips on a dime and all I hear is screaming, crying, and my head  is about to explode. I have to remind Paige he is only 1 so many times a day. Then there is that whole privacy issue. I can't sit, go to the bathroom, take a shower, or pretty much anything without two kids premenantly attached to me. I haven't quite found a hiding place they can't find for five minutes of peace and quiet. So as you can imagine I'm very much ready for my other half to help me wrangle these two wild horses. It has made me more appreciative of my husband I never really realized how much he helped and how much I need him just to be my blocker at times too. He is an awesome and amzing Dad to these kids and they don't even know how lucky they are to have him in their lives. Yay Yay so happy!!! Boy am I blessed or what.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

So Many New Things

So we seem to have started the new year off pretty well. This month has been so crazy for me at work. Finally getting my products posted, and still going to crazy uneccessary classes. My EPR is due this month, I test for Tech on the 7th of Febuary, haven't had a free minute to study, trying to file my TMO claim online, trying to get all of my tax stuff together so I can do taxes soon, sick kid (Clay Riley), attempting  to get Doug here but getting blocked at every turn, and did I mention I'm going to Africa soon. Paige joined girl scouts. She had her first meeting and enjoyed it. She already earned her first badge. We start selling cookie next month. Let me know what you want I can ship it. Paige has also had another play at school. This one was pretty cool. She was old mother Hubbard. It all starts with the queen of hearts making the tarts ect... and now she asking all the other nursery rythmes if they have seen the knave. Sorry about my poor spelling. It was really cute I  almost missed it because of a wreck on the A14 where a lorry (18 wheeler) collided with a tanker (carrying ethanol). I was 10min late and felt like the worst parent ever. She also got awards for the second quarter. One for knowing all her 30 star words the other for reading at level 4D. They expect by the end of Kindergarden for them to be reading at least a 3C level. Not sure what all that means just glad she is exceding the expectations. We have another party thing tomorrow at her school a family event and I'm still up waiting for the last of the cookies to finish. Clay Riley is amazing me more and more everyday. He is talking a lot more and knows how to say "eat" and "more" using sign language, they teach him that at daycare. He has been my sicky. Pink eye on Sunday, bad poops and vomitting on Tuesday. I was suppose to be in a class, but baby comes first. The latest in my life has been the disappointment with Doug's visa. UPS delivered to the wrong office, theb even after that office directed them to the right place they put that the office refused the package and sent it back to the embassy. Still not quite over it. We finally got our internet after a month and a half. Everything here is on slow mode when it comes to that kind of stuff. Okay so here is my list of  things you might wat to know before traveling here. 1. you drive on the left hand side of the road, it came pretty natural for me maybe because I'm left handed. 2. Tom Tom is a must I could make it anywhere without it. 3. The way they talk at first will be cute and different then you will totally hate it cause you can't understand them and therefore can't have a conversation with anyone without say "what" every other word. 4. No AC in the summer. They only have heat. 5. The weather (rainy, sunny, rainy, cloudy, rainy, cold, windy, rainy, cold, snowing, and did I mention rainy. 6. You will want to pull over in your car at times to try and take pictures of all the historical beauty. Don't. 7. Roundabout (enough said) you either make it through to your exit or go around til you get it right. 8. US money is crap here. $1 is .62 pence. That is all for now. I'm very excited about going to Africa. Nah nah nah at Matthew. LOL!!! It is going to be a wonderful adventure for me and I'll definately go more than once. Well the cookies are done so I'm going to bed. 11:32pm.

Saturday, January 8, 2011

Happy B-Day to Me!!!

Had a pretty good birthday. I have decided this will be the last one I think 29 is a good year to stop aging. At my new office they bought me a cake and everyone in the entire section not just mine sang happy birthday. It was good and I was a wondeful shade of red. Paige gave me one of her fav stuffed animal and sang happy biirthday to me. I  had to work so I celebratedn with the kids  today. We got a ice cream and a Rainbow Brite cake from the commissary.We went and ate lunch at the bowling alley then ate cake and ice cream there.